Riffing on this line in a comment at Sunshine Mary’s blog:
[O]ther than childbearing…men can do everything better than a woman.
I’ve run across that claim a few times in the manosphere, and the first time I saw it, my knee-jerk reaction was to say that it went too far. Yes, the feminist claim that “everything a man can do a woman can do better” was ridiculous and false, but surely to say the opposite would be false too. Surely the truth is somewhere in the middle, that men are better at some things and women are better at others.
But as I thought about it, I realized I couldn’t refute it. Yes, I am better than women at everything I’ve cared enough to learn how to do. I’m a better cook than most women I know. I’m better at cleaning things. I’m better at teaching kids, getting them to behave, or sitting down with a troubled child and getting him or her to talk. I’m confident that if I decided to learn to sew, or knit, or any other traditionally female occupation, I could handle that just fine too.
And that’s not to say I’m so great; I think it’s generally true. Look at any endeavor that’s normally thought of as female-dominated, and see who rises to the top. In day-to-day life, women do most of the cooking and sewing, are far more interested in fashion than men, and do most of the singing in church. But who are the top cooks, tailors, fashion designers, and classical singers? Mostly men. When men take an interest in an activity, they excel at it. So if women dominate at something, that means men just don’t care to.
Which brings me back to myself: I certainly can clean my house as well as any woman. I can wash dishes, mop floors, and sweep cobwebs as well as anyone; those tasks aren’t exactly complicated. I can even take a certain amount of pride in it. But I can’t enjoy it. And that’s what I think women have that we men are missing — the ability to be content with such work. The women I know who have embraced their femininity and the traditional role of wife, mother, and homemaker, really do seem to enjoy it. That’s not to say washing dishes excites them, or that they never look at a pile of laundry and want to cuss. But I see them put on an apron and tackle homemaking jobs with a smile — sometimes even a song — that men can’t duplicate. Not this man, anyway.
That’s why those roles are so important, and why egalitarianism sucks so hard. If women go off to be half our CEOs, lawyers, and soldiers, lowering productivity and causing havoc in those areas, maybe men can make up the difference by doing a better job than those women would have done in the home. I doubt that, but even if it were true, it still wouldn’t be acceptable, because neither would be content. Both would be working against their own natures, making themselves discontented without even knowing why.
Then you get effeminate men who fantasize about Tough Chicks because their supplications don’t get any and they’re hoping one will come along and “take” them. On the other side you get career girls who ride the carousel looking for the meaning in their life that a husband and children would have provided. That’s egalitarianism for you: the worst of both worlds.