The subject of drama, and women’s need for it in relationships, came up on SSM’s comment thread this weekend. Women — all women, even (especially?) the ones who say they hate drama — love it and crave it.
I think this leads to a lot of guys taking the red pill and then saying, “Ugh, too much work, never mind.” It’s easy to get the idea that the only way to keep a woman content is to supply a never-ending supply of drama — just enough to keep the hamster going, but not enough to send her to her mother’s house for a week. It seems like you’re trading the job of supplying her with gifts and affection for the job of supplying her with drama.
It sounds like an endless, exhausting task. You just want a happy home where you can watch a little TV and play with the kids and mow the yard, but you won’t be able to enjoy that because you’ll have to be watching for signs of ennui from your woman and generating some drama to keep her interested. No guy wants to do that; no guy wants to invent an argument with his woman when he’s not mad about anything.
I think (hope) that overstates it, though. As taterearl said,
1. Don’t be boring.
2. Don’t be a suck up.
There will be a never ending supply of the right kind of drama if a guy does that.
So it doesn’t have to be major fights or cry-fests. Just don’t be afraid to say no once in a while, and that’ll provide her with some minor irritation to mull over. Tease her, keep her guessing, which is fun anyway. If she’s reasonably mentally healthy, that should be enough.
That’s probably not enough for some women, though. If she has a personality disorder, major drama may seem so ordinary to her that if you go a week without cussing at her she’ll think you don’t love her anymore. Those kinds of cases don’t fit into the normal mode, and women who are that messed up shouldn’t be marrying anyway. Their need for drama does exceed anything a normal man could provide, or would want to provide.