Yes, I’m sure having a natural bent toward submission is helpful. Lucky lady. Wish it came naturally to me.
That reminded me of a discussion I had recently, wherein a friend and I agreed that women do have a natural bent toward submission, but it’s trained out of them, much as a boy’s natural bent toward dominance is trained out of him these days. Perhaps it’s more natural for some than for others, but I think it exists in all of them at birth, as part of female human nature.
I’m reminded of times when I did get dominant with a girlfriend — maybe out of frustration, because this was before I knew it would work — and it turned her on. Or the times that a woman would curl up against the couch at my feet, leaning against my knees, to watch TV. In hindsight, I can see all sorts of submissive body language that women showed when they were attracted to me. And these weren’t outwardly submissive women — they would have scoffed at the idea. But something in them still urged them in that direction unconsciously.
It shows up more clearly in women who were raised with traditional beliefs from the start, though. I know women who actively look for opportunities to follow a man’s leadership. At my church, we say the rosary before every Mass. If there are only women there early enough, one of them will lead the rosary; but if there is a man there, they’ll ask him to do it, because they think it’s best for a man to lead. That’s a small example, but they try to maintain that attitude throughout their lives.
That’s not to say they don’t and won’t struggle with it, or that a man can assume that if he gets one of those women, he can sit back and relax and never worry that she’ll try to dominate him. We have the assurance of God’s words to Eve on that; every woman will struggle with this and need God’s grace and her husband’s leadership to guide her away from that temptation. But raising girls with the right beliefs, and surrounding girls and women with a society that once again appreciates the “help-meet” role, would make things much, much easier for women — and men, by extension.